Paula Span in her article on the NY Times New Old Age Blog suggests that “what variety of facility an older person lives in may matter less than we’ve assumed. And that the characteristics adult children look for when they begin the search aren’t necessarily what makes a difference to the people who move in.”

Span’s suggestion is based on (among other things) a recent study published in The Journal of Applied Gerontology, which found that among 150 Connecticut residents living in various long-term care situations (assisted living, nursing homes, residential care homes), the type of living situation itself made little difference in the resident’s emotional well-being. Rather, happiness and contentment was more a matter of “the characteristics of the specific environment they’re in, combined with their own personal characteristics — how healthy they feel they are, their age and marital status.”

Logically enough, a resident of a long-term care facility of any kind is more likely to report satisfaction and comfort if they had a hand in choosing their living situation, if they were part of the decision making process. In fact, it is the process itself—researching options, visiting facilities, considering current and future social and physical needs and how they will be met—that is the beginning of acclimatization.

Whatever your choice, you’ll want to know that you have options for paying for your long-term care living situation. Medicare.gov has published a chart summarizing and comparing the various options for long-term care financing. We find that the chart falls short, however, in the way it outlines the features of  “Medicaid”, called Medi-Cal in California, as it does not address planning options that are currently available to qualify for the subsidy and protect your home and other assets.  For more on this topic, see our “Consumer’s Guide to Medi-Cal Planning”.

The search for the right living arrangement—either for yourself or for an aging family member—can be much easier if you know ahead of time the right questions to ask and the important things to look for. This article in U.S. News and World Report shares 9 things to look for in your search for an assisted living facility, including:

• Making sure the facility is licensed
• Ensuring the facility’s financial stability
• Getting referrals
• Making visits to assess the facility’s staff
• Asking what current residents have to say
• Considering whether it can meet not only your current but also your future needs
• Asking about payment options (including Medicaid, called “Medi-Cal” in California)
• And more

Having so many different options these days means we can hope that finding the right senior living arrangement is a much more personal—and pleasurable—task than it has been in the past. Some of the best retirement communities or nursing homes have long waiting lists, so starting your search early will improve your chances of finding the place that’s right for you. But be careful, nursing home and assisted living contracts can contain surprises and should be carefully considered; or better yet, have an attorney look at the contract for you. And, if you are finding a place for your parent or other infirm family member, try to avoid signing the contract yourself unless you plan on being financially responsible for payment. It is often better to ask you parent or loved one to sign the contract and, if they are unable to do so, then sign only as their “agent” if you have valid agency authority.

With the many choices now available there’s no reason not to have exactly the senior living situation you want and need.