Funeral home - This will likely be your first call.  The funeral home you or your loved one has selected will be able to help you with a lot of the immediate details and tasks.  The funeral director will also be able to help you obtain 10-20 copies of the death certificate, something you will need later.

Family and Friends - This probably goes without saying.  Not only will you want to notify family and friends, but they can also help with a lot of the endless tasks and overwhelming details.  Don’t be afraid to delegate.

Veteran’s office (if deceased was a Vet.) - If the deceased was a Veteran you may have to stop benefit payments; you may also be able to get assistance with the funeral or memorial service.

The deceased’s employer - You will need to do this not only to inform the employer of the death, but also regarding termination of health insurance.

Attorney or Tax Professional - You will need to know what to do about probating the deceased’s estate, filing tax returns, dealing with bank accounts, etc.  An attorney or tax professional can help. It is especially important to find out if your loved one had any existing estate documents.

Office of Social Security - If your loved one was receiving benefits you’ll need to stop payments. You will also want to find out if survivors are entitled to any benefits.

Insurance company of the deceased – You will probably need to file a claim.  This is something your attorney or accountant may be able to help with.

Local Newspaper - You may want to publish an obituary or notice of death, as well as information about the funeral or memorial service.

Credit card companies and utilities - Give written notifice of death to each creditor.  However, check with your estate’s attorney before paying any outstanding balances, as your attorney may advise paying them only after furnishing to each creditor the required legal notice and awaiting timely claims.  Generally, you have no obligation to pay these debts from your own funds unless you, too, were a signer on the account(s) or are the surviving spouse with a legal obligation to pay the debt(s).

Bank - Arrange to change any joint accounts or to open an account in your name.  Do not close any accounts right away!

Although this list is a good starting point; a complete list of people to call and things to do will depend on where the deceased lived and the details of their estate. Contact your loved one’s estate planning attorney (or your own) to ensure that nothing is left to chance.

The article mentioned above contains a helpful guide for those who are dealing with loss. It includes well-known items such as “contact close friends and family” and “make funeral arrangements” as well as items that may not come to mind as naturally, such as “write an obituary” and “contact the deceased’s employer.” Few people think about these things when under emotional strain, which is why this list is an excellent resource to file away for a time when it may be needed.

If you are having a particularly hard time with the grieving process don’t be afraid to ask others to help with the more difficult items, or to hand the list over entirely to someone else. This is when your own probate or estate planning attorney (or the deceased’s attorney, if they had one) can be especially helpful.

Although it sometimes feels as if time should stand still when someone we love passes away, life does go on, for better or worse. But the world is full of caring and knowledgeable people to help you through the process… if you only know where to look.