1. Estate Planning is only for rich people. This is probably the single most common estate planning myth there is—and it is a myth.   When people add up the value of their home, their life insurance, savings, retirement account, etc., etc., etc. they often find that they are much closer to being a “rich person” than they thought. Not only this, but as we’ll get into in more detail below, estate planning is not only about saving on estate taxes, it’s also about controlling your wealth and protecting your own needs when the unexpected occurs. It is also about planning for long term care, an expense often overlooked.

2. “I have plenty of time.” AKA: Only old people need estate plans. First of all, just because you’re young doesn’t mean bad things can’t happen to you. But you know this, and anyway, this post is not about fear. Unexpected tragedies aside, an estate plan is useful even when you’re young because an estate plan is not just about death. A good estate plan will include not only a will, but also a healthcare directive and HIPAA Authorization (both of which are useful if you find yourself facing a surprise stay in the hospital), Power of Attorney documents (which you may need if you ever travel outside the country or are otherwise unable to sign for yourself on financial or legal documents), and legal documents relating to minor children (such as medical authorizations—an essential document if you leave your minor child with a babysitter for any extended period of time.)

3. Married people don’t need estate plans. While it is true that a married person with straightforward wishes for the distribution of their property has less need of estate planning, it does not necessarily follow that they can skip estate planning altogether. Under normal circumstances, any jointly held property will pass to the surviving spouse upon the death of the first spouse… But what happens if the surviving spouse gets re-married? What about the property you would specifically like to go to your children, or to your parents or siblings? And what if both you and your spouse die together? These are the reasons why even married people should consider drawing up at least a simple plan.

4. All I need is a quick will and I’m done. A quick will is certainly better than no will. And if you want to be technical, you don’t even need a quick will; after all, your state of residence has a plan already in place for you. The problem is that it may not be the plan you want. There is a saying that “anything worth doing is worth doing well.” This goes for wills (or any other legal document) as well. If you want the basics you can have the basics. But if you want the best, you’re going to need to spend a little more time on it.

5. Estate Planning is only about money. Although money is often one of the main motivating factors behind creating an estate plan, money is absolutely not what estate planning is all about. Estate planning is about people. It’s about your family and doing what’s right for them. Estate planning is not just about saving your family from estate taxes, or making sure Junior gets the house; it’s about leaving them peace of mind. A well thought-out will or trust saves them from a lengthy probate process, but also reassures your children that they are doing what mom or dad really would have wanted. And sometimes a well designed plan might include a personal statement of values and wishes for your spouse and children, a writing that is sometimes called a memorandum of intent.  Indeed, such a personal statement can give you the opportunity to express certain things that you may not have been able to express during life. An estate plan is full of documents designed not just to save you or your heirs money, but to allow you to express your wishes and values even after your death. Estate Planning is about more than just money—it’s about family, legacy, and love.

Write down your goals. You may have a number of intertwined goals for your estate plan (this is especially true for blended and multigenerational families), or one simple-but-important goal such as “ensure my minor children have a place to go” or “keep the family business intact.” Knowing your goals from the outset will make all subsequent decisions much easier.

Make a list of the people you trust. Throughout your estate plan you’ll be nominating people to take over financial, healthcare, and guardianship responsibilities if something happens to you. Have a rough list of people you would trust in these roles. Begin with your initial goal and go from there. For example, if your initial goal was guardianship of minors, make a list of people you would trust with the care your child, and move from there to financial decision-makers, etc.

Make a list of people you don’t trust. If you’re having trouble coming up with people for the list above, it sometimes helps to consider the people you would NOT want to be responsible for your child, your finances, or your healthcare. Write down those people and work backward from there. If your kids must be kept from crazy Uncle Joe at all costs, would your cousin Emily be an acceptable alternative, even if she does have a different parenting style?

Know your assets. Make a list of all your assets and their approximate values. This will help your estate planner determine what kind of asset protection you need in your plan. Assets include:

• Your Home
• Investment/Vacation Property
• Bank Accounts
• Savings/Investment Accounts
• Retirement Accounts
• Life Insurance
• Family Owned Business
• Etc.

Bring In the Professionals. Estate planning is a very technical process, and the laws may frequently change, so you’ll definitely want professional help with the details of the process. The good news is that now that you’ve completed the beginning steps, the follow-through with your chosen professional advisor will be a snap! If you already have a relationship with a trusted attorney, insurance agent, financial advisor or CPA you’ll want to start there. Let that person know your goals and that you’re ready to begin planning in earnest; he or she will be able to guide you onto the next steps, or give you the name of an estate planning professional who will help you build your ideal plan.

Although it looks overwhelming from the outset, estate planning is really just a series of small steps, each of which leads you to the achievement of your ultimate goal: Preserving your assets and protecting your loved ones. Now that you know it’s so easy… what are you waiting for?

A recent article from CBS news suggests that although women are actively involved in family and household finances, they are less likely to be involved in long-term financial decisions. According to the article, although many women “know how to spend and get by on a short term basis… they have a time getting a grip on their long term saving and planning.” Of course this is a generalization, and won’t apply to everyone; but considering the importance of the topic, it is definitely a worthwhile subject for discussion.

Here are a few statistics to consider that impact women and their long-term financial decisions:

• Older women (65+) outnumber older men by 22.4 million to 16.5 million. (Administration on Aging)
• Poverty rates are higher among older women than older men by 20.4 to 13.1. (U.S. Census Bureau)
• The median weekly earnings of full-time wage-earning women is $657, or 80 percent of men’s $819. (U.S. Dept. of Labor)
• Not to mention that on average, it is the woman of the family who will end up putting her career on hold for caregiving duties at various times in her life (either to care for young children or aging parents.)

Put all of this together and it means that women need to take control of their finances, not the other way around! Luckily, this may not be as difficult as you think. The CBS news article mentioned above has some suggestions on how to take charge of your finances; but beyond that, planning your estate can be a huge step toward planning for your financial future as well, because any estate planning includes taking stock of of your financial assets—including savings accounts, retirement assets, individually owned assets as well as those owned jointly by a married couple.

We encourage women (and their families) to let their estate planning contribute to their financial future—it’s not just about how your assets will be distributed after your death, but also what steps you’d like to take to preserve those assets during your lifetime.

Now, “love” may sound sappy and sentimental, but when it comes down to it love truly is the only reason we would spend time and money thinking about the unpleasant subject of death, and planning for a time that we won’t be around to enjoy life with our loved ones.

Estate Planning Ensures Your Minor Children Have a Home

Part of creating your estate plan includes nominating guardians for your minor children. Without this nomination, your children are at the mercy of the court should anything happen to you. Estate planning also allows you to ensure that your minor children and their guardians have the financial security they need to make a smooth transition during a difficult time.

Estate Planning Preserves Sibling Relationships

There are fewer things more stressful to a family than the death of a beloved parent. And it is at this time more than any other that fights are liable to break out between normally loving siblings: Fights over what to do for mom’s funeral, over who gets treasured heirlooms, over who dad would have wanted to distribute the estate. All of these fights can be easily avoided by creating an estate plan that spells out your wishes in clear and loving terms.

Estate Planning Allows You to Provide for Your Children and Grandchildren

You spend a lifetime raising and caring for your children knowing that someday, when you’re gone, they’ll have to fend for themselves. Creating an estate plan allows you to leave a little bit behind, a cushion your children can hold in reserve in case of emergency. An estate plan allows you to continue providing for your children even after you’ve gone.

Estate Planning Leaves an Enduring Legacy

Estate planning is not just about finances and paperwork, it’s about relationships. Creating your estate plan allows you to brush away life’s minor details and minutia and focus on what’s really important, allowing you to connect with your loved ones in a more meaningful and lasting way than ever before. Your estate plan expresses your enduring values, leaving a legacy for your family that will live on for generations to come.

Anyone who pays taxes knows that your marital status matters to the state and federal government. Your marital status also impacts your rights when it comes to insurance, privacy, pensions, and even probate. For example, in California the communty property of a married person who dies without a Will,  will  pass to their spouse, and separate property will be allocated between their spouse and children. *    This is not necessarily the case for unmarried couples. Similarly, in an emergency medical situation a spouse will have access to information about his or her injured spouse, but unmarried couples do not always have this same privilege. Although there is good reason behind these privacy laws, it can be particularly distressing when couples who have lived together for years may suddenly have trouble getting medical staff to recognize their partner when a medical decision needs to be made.

Luckily, your estate planning attorney can help circumvent some of the potential problems unmarried couples may face in case of incapacity or upon death. Executing an Advanced Health Care Directive or Health Care Power of Attorney will ensure that medical personnel recognize the authority of a trusted partner to make medical decisions for you. Similarly, by creating a Will or Trust you can nominate the person you want to act as executor of your estate upon your death, and who the beneficiaries of your property will be, regardless of whether you have a marriage license or not.

The issue of marriage is one that is obviously very close to the heart, but estate planners see it on a practical level as well. In the legal world of estate planning our goal is to ensure that your wishes for end of life health care and final distribution of wealth are honored—regardless of your marital status.

*Please note: Probate laws will vary from state to state—be sure to talk to your estate planning attorney about the laws specific to your state of residence.

It didn’t always used to be this way. The last will and testament of the great Jane Austen, for example, was only one paragraph long:

I Jane Austen of the Parish of Chawton do by this my last will I testament give and bequeath to my dearest sister Cassandra Elizabeth everything of which I may die possessed, or which may be hereafter due to me, subject to the payment of my Funeral expences, & to a Legacy of £50. to my Brother Henry, & £50 to Mde de Bigeon – which I request may be paid as soon as convenient. And I appoint my said dear sister the executrix of this my last will & testament.

Jane Austen

April 27 1817

Although this simplicity may have worked in 1817 England, it isn’t practical in the here and now. Things just aren’t that simple anymore. First of all, although Austen appoints her sister Cassandra as the executrix of her will, the will itself neglects to specify what powers are included in that appointment, leaving Cassandra effectively unable to carry out Austen’s wishes. Secondly, the will neglects to make alternative provisions—what if Cassandra had unexpectedly died before Jane? Also notably lacking (from our contemporary perspective) are any provisions for estate taxes. And finally, discerning readers may notice that the will does not include the signatures of any witnesses, something which would have been required if her will had been type-written.  Likely, it was only because her will was written entirely in her own hand, and her hand-writing was later authenticated by witnesses who authenticated her hand-writing, was the will upheld as valid.  In California, a type-written will must always be signed by at least two witnesses; the only exception  to this requirement is a “holographic” will, which is a will that is completely handwritten by the testator. 

We all may long for simpler times, especially when it comes to something most people think will only benefit their heirs and not themselves; but many of the rules and regulations that are dismissively thought of as “hoops to jump through” are there for your best interest. They exist to protect your heirs and your legacy from fraud, misuse, greed and neglect. Far from being a chore, creating a thoughtful and legally valid will these days is actually an act of love… One might even say it’s a matter of sense and sensibility.

Kimberly Palmer, author of this article in U.S. News and World Report says that “bringing up the estate tax with your aging parents can be as awkward as inquiring after their sex life.” Talking about any kind of estate planning with your parents can indeed be awkward, but as Palmer points out it is extremely important… especially now when the repeal and reinstatement of the estate tax means that “ignoring the issue could mean giving Uncle Sam a big chunk of one’s estate inadvertently.”

So how can you bring up the topic of estate planning with your parents without them thinking that you’re more interested in your inheritance than your parents’ well-being? The article mentioned above has a few ideas, including:

• Talk about your own estate planning experience and how relieved you are that everything is in place.
• Talk about recent celebrity deaths that have been in the news: George Steinbrenner, Michael Jackson, etc.
• Mention how concerned you are about the uncertain estate tax situation.

Of course, the best policy is to just be honest. Tell your parents truthfully that you are concerned about their financial stability, about keeping the family peace, about your grasping uncle Mickey taking the antique dining set you’ve loved since you were a child. Explain that you only want to help… but remember that the choice is ultimately theirs. As author Deborah Jacobs says in the article, “if they don’t want to talk about money, then you need to drop it and accept that this is not something you should pursue… If you have tense times towards the end of your parents’ life because you’re talking about estate planning, it will stay with you forever, and it’s just not worth it.”

But today’s blog post is not a cautionary tale about a family who put off their planning and regretted it, today’s post is about the peace and relief that forethought and planning brings not just to your family, but to you as the person making the plan.

In this article in Market Watch Chuck Jaffe tells the moving story of his brother Rob, who insisted 2 years ago on creating an estate plan even though he and his wife were both healthy. As Jaffe puts it, “While not pleasant subject matter, it was not morbid… you’d rather be drinking lemonade on the veranda, but it wasn’t a sharp stick in the eye.” However, when Rob became unexpectedly ill in May of this year the estate plan turned out to be a comfort to Rob and his family—such a comfort, according to Jaffe, that Rob “made me [Chuck] promise that I would write about him… when his time was up, because his story would help others.”

“People need to understand… how big a blessing it is to know — when their time comes — that they have everything in order, that they don’t need to stress or worry about how things they worked their whole life for are going to turn out. … I would not want to waste a minute of my life now having to do estate planning or worrying that I live long enough to get documents filed or whatever garbage comes with it… Focusing on death and dying while you are living, that’s easy; having to focus on death when you are dying, that would be unimaginable.”

In our business we frequently see how much easier it is for people to create a plan when they’re healthy, as opposed to the stress that comes with creating a plan when they are sick. Thank you Mr. Jaffe for sharing your brother’s moving story. We hope that your (and your brother’s) words will help motivate others to take comfort in planning ahead.

The United States has avoided these “forced-heirship” laws (although your state’s laws regarding distribution of assets in the absence of a will or estate plan may feel like forced-heirship), but these laws “are prevalent in many parts of the world, notably the Middle East, where Islamic law predominates, and continental Europe.” If you are a United States citizen residing in one of these “forced-heirship” countries—or if you are a citizen of one of these countries residing in the United States—you will definitely want to talk to your attorney about how best to protect your family and your assets.

Just how you will go about building your web of protection will depend on a number of variables, including your citizenship, your country of residence, and in which country the assets were acquired or are held. Most estate planners agree that a trust is generally the best way to go about protecting your assets, but a trust may not work in every situation. “The legal systems that have forced-heirship rules tend not to recognize trusts.” You may find that you’ll have to set up a will or estate plan in two places: one in your country of origin and one in your country of residence.

And of course international estate planning is not all about heirs and distribution—especially if you have young children. International guardianship documents should be carefully drafted and should include provisions for temporary guardians, travel arrangements, and medical powers of attorney for minors.

Living in a global community has its pros and its cons—the best way to successfully span two countries or cultures is to be flexible… and be prepared!

Lupton’s article, entitled How to Lose a Legacy, makes the point that the difference between old stuff as trash and old stuff as treasure lies largely with you and how you choose to leave all this stuff to your heirs. “You can’t buy an heirloom at Pottery Barn or IKEA. It comes via gift, bequest or a heated sibling brawl.”

Lupton says early on in her article that “Even folks in the ‘die broke’ crowd, determined to enjoy their remaining assets rather than leave them to the ungrateful grandkids, may secretly hope the family will love and honor their dearest possessions.” But secret hopes aren’t of any use to your children or grandchildren after you’ve passed away. Part of the job of an estate planner is to help you express these secret hopes to your heirs and leave your treasured possessions in safe and appreciative hands.

Of course your heirs are going to have minds (and memories) of their own, and your treasured silver cake platter could still end up in the local antique store; but the best way to keep your treasures in the family is to make sure your family knows your wishes. If they know how much your grandmother’s English tea set meant to you (and why it meant so much to you) it’s going to mean that much more to them.

You may share a life and history with your heirs, but you can’t expect them to read your mind. If you can put your stuff into context—let each heirloom tell a part of your story and reflect a meaningful relationship—the legacy you leave will be priceless.

Attorney and accountant Bob Carlson has written an article in InvestingDaily.com in which he enumerates four reasons to create an estate plan even without the motivating factor of estate taxes (he calls this Legacy Planning):

1. Financial Security
2. Continuing management and caretaking
3. Protection (from creditors, predators and lawsuits, if not from taxes)
4. Other tax burdens (such as state taxes, capital gains taxes, gift taxes, etc.)

There are many things we do in our lives not because we have to, but because we know it’s the right thing to do. Estate planning is no different. Creating an estate plan is not just about taxes, it’s about you and your family planning for the future. Creating an estate plan is about being there for your children even after you’ve passed away; it’s about protecting them, providing for them, and even teaching them fiscal responsibility.

Will the lack of estate taxes in 2010 lead you to ignore these other important reasons to protect your family and plan for the future?

According to the Associated Press Steinbrenner’s family is set to receive a tax break of “about $328 million” because of the estate tax repeal this year. This number, along with the millions of dollars saved (that would otherwise have gone to pay estate taxes) by the families of Dan L. Duncan, Walter Shorenstein, and Mary Janet Morse Cargill may inspire Congress to take action on the issue of the estate tax before the year is over. The Washington Post quotes Senator Bernard Sanders of R.I. as saying, “In the midst of this terrible recession, the idea of giving billionaires a massive tax break is obscene… Already we have four billionaire families who are not paying taxes — Steinbrenner’s being the last one. Many billions are being lost. We have to address that reality right now.”

Although there is still some talk of the possibility of the estate tax being reinstated retroactively, most lawmakers and attorneys agree that the further into 2010 we get the less likely this becomes. But missing out on the estate taxes of four billionaires has to hurt, and the members of Congress are not likely to drag their feet much longer. One way or another, we can soon expect to see the issue of the estate tax become a hot topic of debate in Washington. Our firm will keep you abreast of any changes to the law that could affect you, your loved ones, or your estate.